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Losing Ma

Losing Ma

My blog seems to have lasted with me longer than the people in my life have. Never thought I’d be writing this one. But here it is, published in American Kahani.

Losing Ma: The Last Time I Saw Her She had a Little Too Much Vermilion on Her Forehead

18 responses to “Losing Ma”

  1. LK Trowers Avatar

    What a beautiful piece of writing to express your grief. I hope that writing it was cathartic and I am truly sorry for your loss and pain. Peace be with you.

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  2. valeriedavies Avatar

    As always, a beautiful piece of writing full of insight . I seem to have been reading you for years, and know that is what I will always find. But this time you have written such a sensitive, heartfelt tribute to your mother and to all your fellow countrymen and women. It was very moving , and thank you for sharing an experience which is so much part of the human collective consciousness at the moment. I hope your tree continues to comfort you. Such a beautiful ritual.

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  3. adamjasonp Avatar

    I’m so sorry, Madhura. To see her go like that over months… Losing a parent and everything that goes with them, it is hard and painful.

    I’ve been slowly losing my own mother to mental disorder, skin and bones…now cared for by her sister in another state, so I don’t get to see her or talk much. I can’t get who she was back.

    It’s been an awful year, losing people one way or another.

    I wish I could say it gets better, but I don’t know. All we can do is shed our tears, hold our loved ones dear, and continue moving forward.

    Thank you for your beautiful writing as always.

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  4. Brenton Dickieson Avatar

    I too am sorry for your loss and appreciate the thoughtfulness of your writing. It is such a dislocating thing, to lose one’s parents.

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  5. dragonflyzia Avatar

    I’m so sorry for your loss. The pain never goes away but it does get less intense. Hang in there…

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    1. bottledworder Avatar

      Thank you. I hope so.

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  6. josna Avatar

    I’m so sorry, Madhura. My heart goes out to you. Please accept my sincere condolences. This is a beautiful tribute to your mother and in it you also express so much of what all immigrants are feeling with their dear ones in COVID crisis so far away. You are right that for a time social media and easy mobility seduced us into thinking that it wasn’t so far away, but in fact it is. May you continue to hear your dear mother’s narration making sense of life for you, and let’s hope, for all our sakes, that this terrible pandemic can be brought under control soon.

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    1. bottledworder Avatar

      Thanks, Josna. I am so glad my piece reached you and resonated. Also, hi. This is the first time I released my name on the blog! –Madhura

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  7. suesconsideredtrifles Avatar

    I am sorry for your loss. You have written a beautiful article.

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    1. bottledworder Avatar

      Thanks. Stay well.

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  8. alesiablogs Avatar

    I have been with you for so long and know many admire your writings as I do. Thank you for sharing so much over the yrs. I have lost 3 family members in 3 months and know your pain. I am so very sorry for your loss. May her memory be a blessing to you and others.

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    1. bottledworder Avatar

      Thank, you, Alesia. So sorry for your losses too.

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  9. joannerambling Avatar

    My own Mum died on the 12th April

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    1. bottledworder Avatar

      So sorry. No words can express this loss.

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  10. sustainabilitea Avatar

    I’m so sorry for your loss and for your father having to deal with so much without you. The father of an Indian friend just passed away and I’m sure she feels much the same.

    janet

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    1. bottledworder Avatar

      Yes. Thanks for your kind words.

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  11. Giselle Roeder Avatar

    Thanks for sharing your blog about your “Ma.” I felt your pain as I know what it is like to live in another country or even another continent and are not able to help or see your loved ones. What can we do? We have to live by and with the rules and our loved ones as well. I am so sorry, but I think your ‘tree’ is a good friend and your mother’s soul has settled in it, near you. “Hugs without Bugs”, http://www.giselleroeder.com

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    1. bottledworder Avatar

      Thank you, Giselle

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