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Many of us just know we have it in us to produce some good writing of value. Yet, either anxiety doesn’t let us get there or makes us so slow that there’s no progress over long periods of time.

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Some of us lose ourselves in the rituals we develop around writing–getting coffee, cleaning our desks, decorating a study room. Others wait for the perfect moment when writing will appear with the muse.

I’d say the only thing that can exorcise writing anxiety is a few pages of writing itself. And the only thing that can make you better at writing is more writing. Lots of it.

So how do you stop worrying and start writing?

1. Practice drawing a blank: Set aside a block of time, maybe an hour, two hours or more, whatever your schedule allows, to just write. Try to get a grip over yourself as you sit at your computer and make a mental separation between yourself five minutes ago worrying over an assignment due tomorrow or how you were slighted by your co-worker in the afternoon or  the stain on your white shirt that needs to be treated soon if it is to be removed.

A physical location such as a quiet corner or a cafe helps some people. Other lucky ones are immune to places but being at that mental quiet place is the only space that helps.

You have decided this is your time to write. So just do it!

2. Start at whichever point of the piece you are comfortable with: The beginning, middle and end of a piece only need to exist in the final format. While writing, you can start wherever the writing comes from. Sometimes, starting and leaving off sections and starting again at a new place helps. You have to be careful though that you are not simply ending up with a pile of scraps of pieces of documents.

In direct contrast to being easy on yourself this way, being rigorous also helps once you’ve got the flow going. Even if you find completing a piece distasteful or boring or dry, you keep at it. Often, the result is not too disappointing in the end.

3. Leave off writing at a challenging but easy spot to come back to the next time you’re sitting down to write. This way, you can look forward to writing and spend the first half-hour of the next session settling down with enjoyment. It’s easier to stop thinking of everyday worries at the beginning and feel a sense of accomplishment and develop continuity between writing sessions this way.

The challenge here is overcoming the temptation to finish and leave off at the previous session and also knowing when not to leave off in case the flow disappears the next day!

4. Develop a writing habit which you like: This blog helps me immensely as a continuous writing process. You can join a writing group or write a journal–whatever helps you. The key is liking this process in the big picture even though you might sometimes hate it as an obligation, as an additional thing in the to-do list at a daily level. A continuous process helps develop perseverance, tenacity, grit–all of which are essential to doing something worthwhile that may not bring immediate rewards.

Although you may not realize this at the beginning, simply doing more writing, of any kind, improves writing at any level for anyone of any age. I can testify to this having kept at this blog for more than a year now.

5. Develop a supportive group of readers: This may seem difficult at first, especially for people who are not at that level yet where others are enjoying what they write. You can start with friends and relatives or join a writing group so long as they don’t make themselves scarce whenever they see you approach with a sheaf of paper or a flash drive :).

Once you find a few people, it is always good to look for groups that are either at your level or a bit ahead of you with their work so that you get constructive feedback. It is also important to retain those readers who are supportive and like your stuff although they may not be good writers themselves.

Both critical support and emotional support are important to exorcise writing anxiety and different groups may have different strengths in this regard.

33 responses to “How to stop worrying and start writing”

  1. pesona alam indonesia Avatar

    This article was very inspiring at all , because they can build their soul the spirit of a dreamer who not only dreamed of but should begin to move to start for a change , whether that too should fail or succeed is not a success originated from failure ?

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  2. kursi jepara Avatar

    long time not open this page!!! 😉

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  3. kursi jepara Avatar

    all right,…..i like it

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  4. caseyalexanderblog Avatar

    Super piece. #2 is so freeing. You don’t have to “begin at the very beginning, a very good place to start…” (Sound of Music) Sometimes, the end is a great place to start!

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  5. Nerissa Moonshine Avatar

    Great advice, & the “Make a Habit” bit is, I’ve heard, pretty damn important if you wanna write, but I have yet to accomplish any such structure. I don’t have a routine- in fact that not only applies to writing but to my entire life @ the moment. I have to come up regular writing rituals that work best for me- I think it’s putting in the effort to make a game plan that I’m struggling with the most. Thanks, great post!

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  6. Anna Drake Avatar

    Your advice is excellent and comes at just the right time for me. I seem to always have one task or another competing for my attention. What I must learn is “writing first!” And thank you for putting together your excellent blog. The best to both of us!
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  7. minanilchian Avatar
    minanilchian

    I enjoy your advice. I’m totally one of the ritual types. I need a spotless room and a cup of coffee (with almond milk and sugar) to get started.

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  8. shelleyburbank Avatar

    I think you are right about blogging improving writing. I really found a non-fiction voice over the course of blogging, which in turn helped me when I was offered a chance to write a column and features for our local newspaper. I’m not sure that has translated so well to fiction….but we’ll see. It’s good practice. Thanks for your post. I’m going to share it on my facebook page.

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  9. alesiablogs Avatar

    I spent tonight thinking a lot about that and finally wrote a piece for my blog about my son who has autism. It took effort to develop my thoughts with it, but I took your advice and just made the time to write this piece thoughtfully and without interruption. I have no idea if anyone will read it, but it was good to write it and I felt great about sharing what it is like to live in this world with my son who can not communicate like you and I. Thanks for always writing such inspirational posts that keep me going!

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  10. jdjplocher Avatar

    Writing about not being able to write at least gets me loose. I generally keep a brainstorming/rant space in my Scrivener projects. That helps enormously when I’m feeling stuck, because I can go there and swear at myself or start throwing together informal, rapid bits of work that, surprisingly often, transition into material good enough to go into my drafts.

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    1. bottledworder Avatar

      Sounds like a good strategy.

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  11. meromusings Avatar

    Thanks a lot for this post, would be of great help if posts of this kind would keep coming :

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  12. L M McCormick Avatar

    I guess I am okay (for NOW) being stuck with a blank mind. This is very easy when you have no deadlines 😉
    But seriously, good tips.

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    1. bottledworder Avatar

      Yes, the blank mind is enjoyable too. 🙂

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  13. CureCJD_Heather Larson Avatar

    I am learning not to wait for the muse and just put my butt in the seat!

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  14. TheDisfigured Avatar

    Hmm. Good tips. Thanks for the post.

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  15. Lori Robinett Avatar

    Reblogged this on Lori Robinett and commented:
    This post got my attention right from the get go – I constantly struggle with worrying and let it get in the way of the creative process. Great post.

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  16. Jamie Greening Avatar

    great post. as to #3, i have adopted a practice of stopping my writing in mid-sentence. the unfinished sentence gets the creative juice going again when i return to it.

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    1. bottledworder Avatar

      That needs lots of self-control!

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      1. Jamie Greening Avatar

        yes, it does. however, for me the writing life is as much about discipline as it is creativity.

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  17. Sharon A. Crawford Avatar

    Good advice. I just write through my worries or about them. Writing is a distraction from worry. I’m going to email the link to your blog to a writer who is having life problems and finding it difficult to write.

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    1. bottledworder Avatar

      Yes. Writing is therapeutic.

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  18. jordannchetwynd Avatar

    My brain decides that it doesn’t want to write in the time that i set aside that it would prefer to wait until 3 in the morning >.<

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  19. bck1402 Avatar

    It’s tough finding readers who you hope will be critical when you need them to be. Some of my friends don’t want to read it off a screen and prefer that it be published first… which would defeat the purpose of finding readers, right?
    And we do need people we can trust, too.
    Any help on that end?
    I’ve got a few people reading my manuscript now, although some of them can’t really get critical beyond just saying that they like it.

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    1. bottledworder Avatar

      People who are critical can be trusted I think but there’s a difference between being harsh and being constructively critical.

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  20. Tom Elias Avatar
    Tom Elias

    These are all awesome ideas, BW. I think I’ve used them all in the past when the road to words is uphill.

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  21. Katie Cross Avatar

    I hear this advice all the time, and I give it myself, but nothing changes the fact that the hardest part is actually sitting down to write when you think you have nothing to say. I always hate what I come up with at that point, but eventually it goes somewhere. I’ve learned to embrace that I don’t like it.

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    1. bottledworder Avatar

      Strangely, I’ve often seen that the bumpy bits and pieces that come out at these times aren’t really that bad or reappear later as smoother pieces in unexpected places!

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      1. Katie Cross Avatar

        That’s true! Sometime I go back and I’m happy to see that I may have actually liked what I wrote 🙂

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